tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-82740939191179182152024-02-06T21:00:17.141-08:00Ava's Thoughts on Loving Domestic DisciplineA fresh perspective on the dynamics of a Taken in Hand relationship.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08949509015895068776noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274093919117918215.post-23575589748663734982012-07-07T16:52:00.001-07:002012-07-07T16:52:18.416-07:00Interview With Bonnie<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I decided to interview Bonnie via email. I hope you guys enjoy reading:<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">1. How long have you practiced Domestic Discipline with your HoH?</span><br /></div>
I wouldn't characterize our relationship as DD, at least not in the conventional sense. I'm not big fan of labels because people often treat them as prescriptive rather than descriptive (for example, a true follower of DD or whatever would never do x). I believe that each relationship must grow and evolve organically. Labels, if applicable, may be applied after the fact to explain, so long as they don't constrain.<br /><br />I think Randy and I are probably closer to D/s than DD, but neither is a good fit. Our relationship is one that has changed through years of trial, error, success, and compromise. I am submissive and I follow his direction, though more in the bedroom than elsewhere. Around the house, we each have our responsibilities and take charge of them. He has my blanket consent to spank when he believes it necessary or helpful or convenient or fun. I almost always accept his judgment in such matters, though I retain the right to postpone a spanking when circumstances require it.<br /><br />We spank for many reasons - Stress relief, reconnection, play, foreplay, just because, preventative maintenance, and more. What's missing from this list is a key element of domestic discipline - punishment. It's not a part of our real life dynamic. I'm 54 years old and very responsible. He doesn't evaluate my behavior. Nor do I evaluate his. I think if I disappointed him in some major way, we'd probably talk through it and come to a resolution. There might be a spanking involved, but it wouldn't be punishment for misdeeds. This is how he wants it.<br /><br />With that said, I've been fascinated with traditional corporal punishment scenes since childhood. We have many rituals and they are a huge turn-on for me. He knows just which words to say to launch me into that headspace. <br /><br />We've been together since the late 1970s and we've spanked regularly almost from the very beginning. We took a break for about a year in the 1980s while I was pregnant. That too was his idea.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">2. Did you start DD before or after you were married?</span><br /></div>
Before, with the caveat above</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">3. What is your least favorite/most painful spanking implement you have experienced?</span><br /></div>
We've experimented with all many of ill-conceived implements and pervertibles (vanilla objects adapted for spanking). The worst was probably a homemade rubber paddle/strap thing. It turned my skin red almost instantly.</div>
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4. Have you experienced other punishments besides spanking and corner time?</div>
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<br />As described above, we don't punish in the sense that a DD couple might. We do corner time, occasional restraint, and employ a variety of toys.<br /></div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">5. Do you always receive bare bottom spankings or does it depend on how offensive your behavior was?</span><br /></div>
Even if spankings don't start out on my bare bottom, they virtually always end up that way.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">6. How would your HoH react if you wore revealing clothing in public? Would you get punished for it?</span><br /></div>
Honestly, I think he'd love it. He adores my curvy body and thinks I should show it off more than I do.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">7. What form of DD do you practice? Is it for religious reasons? A Taken in Hand dynamic? 1950's household?</span><br /></div>
Ours is a hybrid to be sure.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">8. Do you think DD helps you explore your feminine side more deeply?</span><br /></div>
That's an intriguing question worthy of an entire blog post. I'm not one who believes that females are inherently inferior. We are smaller, but we are not less.<br /><br />With that said, my submissive side is often expressed through softness and femininity. So, speaking only for myself, I guess my answer is a qualified yes.</div>
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9. Does your HoH use maintenance spankings or does he believe in spankings as punishments only?</div>
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<br />As described above, we use spankings for everything except true punishment. We have a standing date on Friday evenings for what some might call a maintenance spanking. It's usually the most severe spanking of the week and it serves to recalibrate and reconnect us. This session often starts out serious and ends with us laughing in bed. Afterward, I feel refreshed and rejuvenated.<br /></div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">10. Have you received a figging during a spanking?</span><br /></div>
No, but my husband would like to try it sometime. We own a plug that is used on occasion.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">11. What is your opinion on enema punishment? Are you neutral about it, or unsure?</span><br /></div>
That's not our kink. We prefer spankings.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">12. Do you enjoy the Daddy/little girl dynamic or the mere fantasy of it?</span><br /></div>
For us, spanking, whatever the purpose, always has a sexual element. That is incompatible with a parent/child relationship. We do roleplay, but the focus is quite different.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">13. Do you think crying by the end of a spanking is essential in a fully effective punishment?</span><br /></div>
Absolutely not. Crying is an individual thing. I'm the one who sobs at the kids' movie when the dog dies. But paddle my bottom and tears are hard to come by. It's just a part of how we're wired.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">1. Does your HoH have a special name he calls you when you're in trouble? (i.e. Little Miss or Young Lady?)</span><br /></div>
He has several names including my full name, Missy, and Young Lady.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">2. Do you keep spanking separate from the bedroom or do you find it an erotic act as well as discipline?</span><br /></div>
Whatever the intent, every spanking has an erotic element.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">3. What is the most intimate spanking position you've been in that made you feel the most connected to your Husband?</span><br /></div>
That's almost two questions. The most intimate might be a wheelbarrow variant where I lie face down on top of him. My spread legs go beneath his arms and my bottom (and other parts) are close to his face. I'll leave it as an exercise for the reader to visualize why this position is so intimate. :)<br /></div>
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The spanking position that makes me feel most connected is the traditional over the lap position. I've been across his lap a thousand times before and it's familiar. When I'm there, even the unavoidable pain is welcome. He know just what to do to set me right. At those moments, my love for him is so strong I would do almost anything he asks.<br /><br /><br />I hope your readers enjoy these questions and answers!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Bonnie
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Alright, I was caught a little off guard when I read those stories about married women in diapers...but I didn't give myself much time to really think about it before I posted my thoughts. Ever since I read about diaper punishment, I've been pondering over it a little excessively.<br />
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I think diaper punishment can wrap three benefits all in one. The first part is obvious; teaching the wife that her behavior was too childish and if she is to behave like a toddler she will be treated like one. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that this is probably the same reason parents used it on their kids (though it's extremely controversial on whether that method is emotional abuse or not with most people). Anyway, since Domestic Discipline is between two consenting adults; the wife is a grown woman and fully understands her punishment without confusion and deep emotional trauma, I don't see much malice in administering such an embarrassing punishment. It might be a lot different than spanking and other traditional HOH disciplinary techniques, but it gets the lesson taught so well.<br />
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Now that I brought up lesson teaching, the second benefit of this type of discipline is part of a little double entendre I found to make this work particularly well. The wife learns how childish she has been acting and knows that it is up to her on how she wants to be treated. The other lesson I found as I looked more into diaper discipline seemed to be more felt with the heart than with the mind. A Husband taking his own time to diaper his wife not only shows that he will discipline her whenever necessary, but also that he cares about her. Its purpose is to leave an embarrassing reminder and make her feel protected under his rules. It reinforces that special feeling a wife gets after almost all of her punishments, that she is under his care and he will never leave her side. I think that double entendre I mentioned serves as less of a painful punishment, but more of a reminder; like mouth soaping and corner time. Although diaper discipline is a little more elaborate.<br />
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Finally, diaper discipline is a form of grounding. It keeps the wife under restrictions for several days to a month and keeps her more submissive for a longer period of time. The best part about this that I see fit is how it gives the wife time to think about what she's done to displease her HOH. Kind of like a big chunk of corner time, come to think of it. While she is being diapered, embarrassed, and babied, the misbehavior really sets in. When the diapering is over, she's happier than ever to get toilet privileges back and to drink out of a glass like a grown up. She knows what will happen if she continues to act like a toddler, and is less likely to do it again any time soon.<br />
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I wanted to take my chance to thank everyone before signing off and going to bed. I created my blog a striking six days ago, not even a week and my blog now has 1,000 views and counting. I want to publicly thank Bonnie from My Bottom Smarts (you can find the link to her blog in my blog roll, please click on it). I got a big traffic spike after she listed me on her blog roll.<br />
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Thank you to my few followers and subscribers. Thanks to everyone who took the chance to read my blog, even if you didn't end up liking it, I appreciate it.<br />
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I apologize if I don't get the chance to post everyday. Joseph has given me a lot of errands to run since he's been so busy himself at his job in Dodge Ridge. (Not that I'm complaining at all.) </div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08949509015895068776noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274093919117918215.post-72797553443537830162012-06-30T19:39:00.000-07:002012-06-30T23:16:04.062-07:00Women Being Allowed to be Women<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Now, before you get the wrong idea, I think I should be honest: I respect feminists, their point of view and lifestyle. But there's an extreme side to everything, right? It usually doesn't end up pretty. <span style="background-color: white;">It's okay to want independence as a woman. I have no problem with women who prefer going without make up and choosing a career in the field of law, medics or politics over having children. To each their own.</span><br />
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However, political preferences (including conservative and liberal parties) are just as prone to being an invader of personal space as religion is. Not to say all religious or politically involved people try to impose their beliefs on people, just the people that do can come across as overbearing.<br />
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My own grandmother, quite the opinionated woman she is, told me a few years back, that once I am out in the world as a woman I must only trust myself in having a stable home, family, and provided finances. That I must go out and get that college degree, and anyone that relies on someone else to take care of them is a fool. A bit of an extremist example, yes we have all heard worse, but I think you get the point.</div>
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Is it not steering <b>away</b> from feminism to force women into yet another gender role? You'd think a true feminist would want women to make their own choices, whether that be the role of a housewife or a career woman. What if a woman doesn't want to be a traditional feminist, but wants to feel <i>feminine</i>, in her own way? By her decision? This isn't the 1950's anymore. Women are allowed many other options than just being confined to the house caring for children, cleaning, and having dinner on the table whenever her husband gets home from work. Since us women have the option now to provide for our families or stay at home, shouldn't it be respected that some of us make a <u>choice;</u> career or not?</div>
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Only the women who crave to give up control to a masculine force can comprehend what it's like to want to be...somewhat of a girl again. Some women feel feminine putting on a business suit and others enjoy being damsels in distress. It certainly didn't harm women in the past, other than being less protected by domestic abuse laws. </div>
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There's nothing more mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and sexually satisfying to this type of woman than a power exchange. When I know I'm serving my man properly, I feel like my soul has been completed. When I feel soft, disciplined, and youthful, "helpless" sounds more like "blessing" to my ears.</div>
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If someone were to think I was "oppressing" myself by doing housework and obeying my husband, they should realize that nothing makes me happier. Being oppressed to someone often means joy to another. If men were once thought to "wear the pants" in marriage, I think I'll wear my skirt proudly.</div>
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I was surfing experience project today and looking through different groups of Domestic Discipline. There were so many stories to read and so many that wanted to share. I even joined a few myself.<br />
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Then I came across a group called "I Make My Wife Wear Diapers." It can be found here if you want to see what I'm talking about: <a href="http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Make-My-Wife-Wear-Diapers/203745" style="background-color: white;">http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Make-My-Wife-Wear-Diapers/203745</a><br />
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There were about four stories posted, some more elaborate than others. The one that caught my attention was this young, 19 year old wife who was diapered and babied for a month by her Husband/"Daddy." I have never heard of anything like this used in Domestic Discipline marriage. I'm so stumped and still trying to figure out my own opinion on this.<br />
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Husbands, wives, fiances, lovers who practice Domestic Discipline: have you ever used diaper discipline? How embarrassing was it for the wives receiving it? Was it more or less effective than spanking and corner time? Did you still administer spankings and corner time during the diaper punishment? How long did the punishment last?</div>
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I feel sort of stuck on what to think of this. Part of me says it's too juvenile, the other part is telling me...maybe being put in diapers really could set a valid point for the wife. "Act like a baby, be treated like one." Right?<br />
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To start off, let me show you a series of short stories written by Kiki Faran:<br />
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Yes, this is Once Upon A Knee, Volume Two, showing several different scenarios of sassy wives being shown who is boss. This is a sequel to an equally alluring Volume One. You can find detailed previews on Google Books for both volumes.<br />
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This plot is a little more advanced, so I think I'll give you a summary from goodreads.com:<br />
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">Jared belongs to the Rod and Cane Society, a secret organization of men who spank their wives to maintain domestic discipline. When Melania ignores a “request” from her husband and attempts to hide her disobedience, Jared spanks her.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">While Jared believes the unpleasantness has been settled, for Melania it only has begun. Although she consented to the spanking, her fairytale notion of marriage has been shattered and she makes plans to leave Jared as soon as her parents return from vacation.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">While she waits, Melania begins to see more positive aspects of domestic discipline. But just as she decides her love for Jared is paramount and she might be able to accept a domestic discipline marriage, Jared discovers she’d planned to leave him and once again her marriage is in jeopardy.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">Hmm...spicy with just the right amount of conflict, right? I'm tempted to go to the local bookstore already!</span><br />
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">Now, this one right here is a little more sweet. It starts off with the traditional fantasy of this young, pretty author, pretty and lonely at that, wanting to find Mr. Right. It doesn't take long for her wishes to find her way into her life when she starts conversing with an old friend at the bar. Not only does she discover that he was more of an alpha than she might have begun to know, but he wants to be <i>her </i>Alpha, this all being under his terms, of course...</span><br />
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">If you have a drive for the Western life, you're going to <i>love </i>this one. Similar to Faran's Once Upon a Knee, this delicious collection offers little tidbits of what it's like to be a lady taken in hand, but this time by, you guessed it: a handsome cowboy. The cowboys in these stories aren't anywhere near ordinary, and they really know how to lay down the law.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; text-align: left;">So, what do you think? I think I'm going to curl up with my Kindle Fire and read a good book. As for all of you, I suggest trying out some previews on Google Books and stopping by Barnes and Noble when you get the chance!</span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08949509015895068776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274093919117918215.post-26904040935094990432012-06-27T23:03:00.000-07:002012-06-27T23:07:31.925-07:00Married...With ChildrenSo, there's always the lingering question when it comes to Domestic Discipline marriages: who disciplines the children? Just like everything else, there is no black and white answer. Many Domestic Discipline couples end up having children because they want to raise a family. Should Domestic Discipline be used for the children too? Discipline should always be practiced with children in one way or another, but the choice should be left up to the HOH whether or not to use corporal punishment as he does with his wife.<br />
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The name, Head of Household has a lot of meaning behind, and I don't think it should be clouded. As the Head of the Household, the Husband is not only the leader of his wife, but of his family, by proxy, being the HOH. Does that mean he's the only one who sets the rules and punishments for his children? Of course not. Parents have always worked together to raise children, even in the times when Domestic Discipline was popularly well known and practiced. But, in these particular marriages, especially in modern times, the husband employs all forms of corporal punishments. It all depends on the couple if spanking, figging, and other corporal punishments are used or not.<br />
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I won't lie, children are one of my weaknesses and I just couldn't imagine giving any child an enema, figging, or mouth soaping, aside from a light spanking. If my fiance were in charge, however, and wanted to use corporal punishment on our children, I would have to give in my full trust as his wife and let him do his job. If other wives in Loving DD marriages want to incoporate spankings and the HOH agrees, I have no problem with it, as long as it works for them. The typical idea these days of a male led relationship though, is usually done with the Husband as the spanker and employer of physical punishments while the wife gives simpler punishments like time outs, grounding, and lost privileges.<br />
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What do you think? Contribute your answer in my upcoming blog poll, or comment right now.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08949509015895068776noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274093919117918215.post-65678545753656251422012-06-26T16:14:00.000-07:002012-06-29T23:00:14.637-07:00Should punishments fit the crime?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
There's a subtle controversy between Domestic Discipline couples over what types of punishments to administer, and what not to administer. I personally believe in alternative punishment. I've always been one of those punishment-fits-the-crime type of people, and I'm sure there are many others who can agree with me. That being said, I should probably elaborate on what I mean by alternative punishment.<br />
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Most people, when they hear "corporal punishment", think of open handed spanking, paddling, or belting. True, these are effective methods of discipline, but why be limited to only one successful technique? Different types of punishments work for different couples, and yes, sometimes spanking and corner time as the <i>only</i> punishments used can be beneficial in several circumstances. How about the wives that always seem to go back to disobedient and destructive behavior after numerous trips over the knee, and no matter how often they get maintenance spankings? Can spankings alone still be relied on to keep a wife safe and obeying her Husband's rules, when they have turned to nothing but cycle after vicious cycle? Spankings, are in a sense, temporary, but they are still meant to leave a lasting impression to some extent. When is it time to look to other options? That is solely up to the Head of Household to decide, as with all family decisions. If he decides that spanking is simply not enough, he may look to something more lasting that can thoroughly, and safely, teach a lesson. Of course I can't make that choice myself, or define when "enough is enough" but I can provide ideas and advice.<br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"> I separate alternative offenses into two categories, which would be verbal and juvenile. Some offenses may or may not be rule breakers for different couples, but in general these are considered rule breakers for most DD marriages.</span><br />
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* Lying<br />
* Talking back, negative attitude, "mouthing off"<br />
* Swearing excessively<br />
* Giving out personal information or secrets about the HOH without permission<br />
* Flirting or saying inappropriate things to other men<br />
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Those are only a few examples I thought of, but as you see they are all related because they are verbal. What's usually done to clean up a dirty mouth? You might be thinking "chewing Orbit gum." Not exactly.<br />
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A good old fashioned mouth soaping works wonders. Now, I know mouth soaping can also fit into childish punishments, which I will get into briefly, but as a rule of thumb most will agree that mouth soaping when done to children is a punishment for swearing, lying, or another verbal offense, right? The point made is that all dirty language and dishonesty will be punished, and your spouse will fully comprehend that with a mouth soaping. No one likes the taste of soap. The best part about this is in most cases, swearing and flirting are most often considered minor punishable acts paired with a minor punishment. Although in some more serious cases, such as lying, you might need to accompany mouth soaping with a big spanking or long term grounding.<br />
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Now the question comes down to, what type of soap to use? Answers vary from house to house. Dish soap usually isn't recommended, and of course shampoos and detergents are definite DON'Ts, but that's a given. The best type of soap to use for lathering the mouth would have to be a sudsy, generic brand bar soap or at the very least a mild hand soap. The bar soap is the most common type because it can be held and lathered around in the child's (or in this case woman's) mouth at ease by the HOH. Hand soap can work too but it has to be sure that the wife holds it in her mouth for the determined length of time. 5-10 minutes of soap in the mouth is enough and afterwards needs to be rinsed out thoroughly with water.<br />
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* Temper tantrums<br />
* Crying when things don't go her way<br />
* Acting out in public or arguing loudly with the HOH in public<br />
* Repeatedly neglecting to clean up after herself<br />
* Starting quarrels or fights with anyone (defending herself does not count)<br />
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These are all childish behaviors that even adults take part in. Would your wife not benefit from having those behaviors corrected? If someone acts like a child, they should be called for their actions and treated as how they have been acting to get the point across, instead of just a corporal punishment used for everyday purposes. What childish punishments should be fit to childish behaviors? Some of my suggestions are:<br />
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* Grounding<br />
* Time out, corner time or bedroom time if those aren't already employed<br />
* Loss of privileges<br />
* Extra chores<br />
* Enema<br />
* Diaper position spanking (the spankee lays on the edge of a bed or other flat surface, legs are lifted by the spanker to expose the bottom, and the bottom is swatted by the spanker standing up on the floor)<br />
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Since I listed an enema as a possible punishment, I want to add that it should NEVER be done using cold or hot water, too much soap, or too large of a volume. I know enemas are a controversial and old fashioned method of domestic discipline, but if done in the right way (a <b>safe </b>way) enemas can be harmless and convincing. These are usually done with enema bags (aka hot water bottles) that hold up to a gallon of solution, a thin hose and nozzle, and warm water. Salt and baking soda can be added to the enema to keep it balanced with the colon's natural state. If you choose to use soap, use a very mild soap and only enough to form a few suds on the surface. Make sure to administer a second enema containing the same or slightly larger volume than the first with water only to rinse out any soap leftover and prevent irritation. I recommend not using any cramp-inducing solutions like cold water or sodium phosphate. An enema in itself is embarrassing, uncomfortable and meant to leave a lasting impression, which is why it is an effective punishment but must be done with caution. For the first time, try to use up to a quart of water at the most, and once you and your spouse are familiar with enema use move it up to 2-3 quarts each time. The one receiving the enema should hold it for a few minutes and expel the contents in the toilet with the disciplinarian watching.<br />
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Again, this is all up to the HOH and what he chooses as punishments to fit misbehavior. I wish you all the best and I hope you take into consideration these alternative punishments in your marriage.<br />
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<br /></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08949509015895068776noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274093919117918215.post-61532688939834369722012-06-24T21:42:00.002-07:002012-06-25T17:05:36.543-07:00Getting StartedSo, I think I'll start this off with a friendly introduction. I'm Ava; creative writer, software programmer, recent college graduate, and fiance to a wonderful man. You might be wondering what drove me to create a Domestic Discipline blog. If religious reasons come to mind, I just want to say I am a highly spiritual person, but definitely not religious. I was raised with open minded parents, both of which freely let me choose my position in faith. I won't dive too deep into my personal beliefs, but I've always been intrigued by the concept of astral projection, the supernatural, the afterlife, paranormal phenomena...<br />
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Though I don't necessarily agree with all Christian morals, I am completely accepting of all religions! To be clear, this is not a Christian Domestic Discipline blog, just a loving domestic discipline blog; without any Biblical references. I have thoroughly researched different types of domestic discipline, including Christian DD, and at the core it's very similar to loving domestic discipline, but of course everything has its diversity. The main separation between loving domestic discipline and Christian domestic discipline is the motive of the relationship, and of course the flexibility of the dynamics. Loving domestic discipline can vary its rules, train of thought, and sexual practices while Christian Domestic Discipline is based on just that, the core religion that it branches from. Loving Domestic Discipline, for example, can involve a broad range of deviancy, especially when it comes to the erotic aspect of disciplinary practice. Sodomy and other anal punishments could be used in a non-religious form of DD while it could be seen as offensive and sinful in Christian DD, therefore being counterproductive.<br />
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Christian DD and loving DD are not the only forms of domestic discipline in a marriage or committed relationship, as most of you probably know. Being a naturally curious person, Domestic Discipline led me into the darker aspects of its dynamics. The BDSM community is known for Master/slave, Mistress/slave, Dom/Domme/submissive, Daddy/girl, Mommy/boy, and several other variants of a Dominant/submissive relationship. I do find most of it interesting, and can understand some of the desires of fetishistic couples.<br />
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But let's not get sidetracked. Again, this blog is strictly geared towards a non religious, heterosexual, Male led Taken in Hand dynamic. If you were looking for something more on the religious side, or even on the darker, "kinkier" side of Domestic Discipline, you've stumbled upon the wrong blog. This has nothing to do with Masters and slaves, Daddies, Mommies, and little girls (although those ideas do appeal to me), or Christian couples. Christian couples, homosexual couples, and sexual deviants are welcome to read by all means, don't get me wrong, but it's simply not intended for those types of audiences.<br />
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Phew! Now that I've gotten my long winded introduction out of the way, feel free to read my other posts which are coming soon. If you want me to cover another topic or start a discussion, don't hesitate to comment your thoughts on Domestic Discipline.<br />
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